Do you want to live your life or let your life live you? Live with intention

What would you give to know the exact quality of your life on a given day, say on a scale of 1 to 10? Mine is mostly 9 on 10, and at times 9.5. This doesn’t mean of course that I don’t have days that are a 10 on 10.

If I were to give: I would give nothing if I don’t know the value of knowing the quality of my day. If I knew the value of that knowledge, I would give ANYTHING.

The point-being: In order to not be miserable, you need to live your life, rather than letting your life live you.

Live. Don’t just exist.

Live with intention.

Easier said than done, right? WRONG.

Think of a life where all self-doubt and fear of the unknown just because it is the unknown is cast away. Don’t try to visualize, that doesn’t cut it. Just think. Don’t bother closing your eyes. Immaterial. Visualization will happen on its own.

Do this for 10 seconds. Done? Nothing changed? Good! Now we’re talking.

These things don’t just happen. I worked for it and it happened for me, and that’s what I’m here to talk about. Not to sell, just to talk.

Yes, the journey was painful and frustratingly slow–still is at times.

Old wounds reopened. Fractured egos and comforting illusions got shattered. And what was beyond salvaging was let go. You know what I mean by all this. If you don’t, please stop reading, this blog is not for you.

If you’re still reading, here’s where this all starts! Ready, steady, read!

What it means to ‘know’

Why does one feel uptight, whenever one does feel that? Is it the lack of self-discipline, poor mental health, not taking personal care, or is it the outlook?

Actually, it’s none of those.

It all comes down to just one thing: Belief.

Now I’m not advocating affirmation for the sake of affirmation lying to oneself that everything is fine when it’s quite obviously not the case. What I am advocating however, is that you take a step back and ask yourself, “Is this negative perception or thought valid, and thus the emotions it’s triggering?” (Once the emotions have flown through of course, one can’t feel and think and self-introspect at once).

Nine out of ten times, my personal experience has taught me that the anxiety and grief that it triggered was actually unfounded and a result of distrust and pointless suspicion or self-doubt on my part.

But here’s the irony that would always hit home hard: what my intuition told me always turned out to be the fact. It always happened that way.

It’s still the same now, but my intuition tells me mostly positive things. Yes, intuition–not conscious forced affirmations.

How? I’ve trained my subconscious to just ‘know’. And that’s really important. Why and how? Read on..

Comforting beliefs are double-edged swords

A positive belief, whether it is unswerving loyalty, trust or devotion to someone in spite of surface events and situations suggesting otherwise–is something that needs to be handled with care and needs to be nurtured.

When not backed by 100% strength of belief and self-conviction beyond all self-doubt, such a professed belief becomes a comforting illusion.

In these cases, the state of reality being a direct result of how we relate to things as they are against our state of belief, the very beliefs we hold with the intention of influencing a positive reality–end up being the source of negative events and circumstances.

In other words, comforting beliefs that are not strong enough in the mind are capable of causing volatility rather than bringing peace and happiness if self-doubt is not eliminated.

Is self-doubt such a bad thing always?

Always!

But what is self-doubt?

A necessary amount of self-criticism keeps us humble. However the percentage of it that’s needed varies from situation to situation, and from belief to belief–depending on our goals.

If our goal is to say, be humble and open to feedback, then allowing and encouraging self-introspection is critical. But if our goal is to take a strong action, at times with total prejudice, then self-criticism which would only cause hesitation and maybe analysis paralysis must be classified as self-doubt.

Think the last para over. If that example becomes clear in your mind, then you’re on the way to mastering your mind to the point of eliminating all self-doubt.

Does this always work - to live with intention?

Yes, and No. The very fact that our belief system can influences the state of our mind and one’s entire being, and thus our reality, pre-supposes that how well this will work depends on how well we train our subconscious.

What I bring to the table here is not a guarantee of immediate results, nor a long term process.

This is about training one’s subconscious through doable and quick-win measures.

Cognizance and timing are the key drivers in the process.