The Ultimate Flex Is the Freedom to Let Go

Would you choose suffering voluntarily if you knew it would hurt? I wouldn’t.

Yet, so many people make choices without realizing whether they are choosing suffering, healing, or genuine joy. Why is that?

Because they are not free—from the chain of suffering.

Suffering is not a random punishment imposed upon us by unseen forces. It is often a consequence of our choices, whether made consciously or unconsciously. Once we understand this, we reclaim our power.

So, let the person who denied you what you rightfully earned wrestle with their own conscience. Let the one who abandoned you emotionally carry the weight of their choices.

Life is both a debtor and a creditor—it never forgets. But you don’t have to be the collector.

What About Holding On?

To what end? Do you want to be someone who clings to false hope? How far can a comforting belief carry you toward happiness? Comforting beliefs, when not rooted in mutual emotional safety, become illusions—dangerous ones that lead to self-deception.

And let’s be real—who has time for unconditional love in a one-sided equation? I once did. I paid the price. Would you repeat those mistakes? No? Good.

So, get real. Let go.

But Letting Go Hurts!

What’s actually hurting—the act of letting go, or the fear of being abandoned? Be honest with yourself. If you are struggling with whether to hold on or walk away, it means you’ve already been abandoned in some way. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be in this dilemma.

Then why not reciprocate that truth?

One-sided love is self-deception.

But What If There’s Still Hope?

Good point. There may be hope. But letting go doesn’t have to be final, nor does abandonment have to be fatal. Are you with me? Yes? Good. Let’s continue.

Hope is not delusion. However, clinging to hope to avoid making the right and healthy decision is the inaction of a weak heart. Agree?

If there is real hope, it will return. If something was ever truly meant to be, it will find its way back. But for now, persisting is like drinking from an empty cup.

Let the cup refill. If it’s real, it will return in abundance at the right moment.

Trust karma. Trust life. Live your life. Because if you let your life live you, it will wander without direction—and that’s where the problems start.

Life is your student. You are the master. If you let life dictate everything, you’ll find yourself back in kindergarten after earning a doctorate in wisdom. Got the point?

The Irony of Letting Go

Strange, isn’t it? The things we struggle to let go of are often the ones that brought us the most joy.

Think about something that never really made you happy. Do you miss it? Did you have to struggle to let it go? No. It faded away, and you felt nothing.

The struggle of letting go is the privilege of those who have loved deeply. If you never loved someone deeply, walking away would be second nature—you would be the abandoner. I’ve been there, and I regret some things, but not all.

But for those who abandon easily, peace is elusive. They wander endlessly, mistaking diamonds for stones, always searching but never settling.

This is a law unto itself. No scripture can rewrite it.

Wasn’t This Supposed to Make Me Feel Better?

Maybe, maybe not. What truly matters is this: You’ve read this far because deep down, you already know the truth.

You have the strength to choose freedom. You have the power to let go and reclaim happiness.

So don’t be stuck with who you are. This is mutable.

Be who you want to be. And go live that truth.

It never ends.

All the best on your new journey.